Will I be knocked out, with no memory? Or cluck like a chicken?

No. Not at all. Stage hypnosis, which is what you’re thinking of, is quite different from clinical hypnosis. Clinical hypnosis is a process which helps the mind completely open; where both conscious and subconscious mind are receptive and capable of amazing things. It’s a state of deep relaxation accompanied by a HYPER-awareness, rather than UN-awareness.

Why do I want to be hyper aware?

In general, people walk through life unaware of a lot of what is happening around them because human brains purposely use selective attention. Without that tool, people would be deluged with information every second of every day and be unable to focus on any one thing.

Don't believe me?

If you have a minute, there is a cool experiment you should check out. Just go to the ‘Selective Attention Gorilla Video’ and sit back for the ride. It’s awesome and only takes about 3 minutes to go through!

Your mind’s ability to selectively focus is accomplished through a specific brain process, called synaptic pruning, which typically starts happening around six to nine months of age. Until then, you may notice babies staring at a blank wall for hours (perhaps watching patterns of light or texture) or getting startled or overwhelmed by everyday sounds and activities. This is because they see and hear EVERYTHING, all the time which is what helps them learn so much, so quickly.

When synaptic pruning takes place, the mind removes unnecessary neural forks in the brain—so the baby no longer has to hear the furnace kick on, or feel the way the air plays across their skin unless they want to or unless they pay specific attention. They've learned what they needed to from that stimuli, so they can move on. Doing so frees up their mind to focus more deeply on other things.

Unless you are on the extreme end of the autism spectrum, you can, and DO, selectively attend to the world around you.

Seriously, watch the video!

Under hypnosis, your mind completely opens up, like a baby’s—and remember a baby’s mind learns, changes and grows at a fantastic rate! They learn social cues, language, dexterity and a million other things simply and easily because their brains are so open and malleable. With hypnosis, you can harness that same magic.

You’ve actually experienced a simple variation of that magic focus throughout your life, although you may not have realized.

Think back to a time when you woke up to a song playing first thing in the morning and that song got stuck in your head... ALL DAY!

Or, perhaps, you were thinking about a work issue just as you were nodding off and dreamt about it all night--your subconscious mind chewing on the problem, coming up with solutions, playing through scenarios, or reinforcing ideas (sometimes relentlessly).

Imagine using that to your advantage! Hypnosis is an ideal pathway to controlling your own thoughts and behaviours, by harnessing that relentless focus!

As an aside, just as you’re dozing off and first thing upon awakening are the times when your mind is most open naturally, and when suggestions are most easily implanted. Because of this, it’s the ideal time to listen to a targeted hypnosis recording.

What if I'm not receptive?

Picture yourself standing in the kitchen, slicing a lovely, yellow, perfectly ripe lemon. Watch the juices flow as you cut into it. Notice the citrus scent. Now, take a wedge of that lemon and put it into your mouth. Did your body respond? Did your mouth pucker or salivate? Now, hear the sound of Styrofoam rubbing together or fingernails scraping down a chalkboard. Imagine yourself touching a wet wooden spoon. Did your arms get goosebumps? Did you shiver? Do you yawn when someone around you yawns?

The degree to which you reacted to any of these ideas is your degree of responsiveness, and every normal brain responds to a certain extent.

The point I'm making is that there is no lemon, no nails, no Styrofoam, no spoon. And yet your body responded.

Your body reacts as if these things are real. A mere thought stimulates a physical response! And this response demonstrates the power of your subconscious mind.

If you involuntarily respond to a random idea, imagine what can happen when you consciously take control of the thoughts in your head!

What if I don't go into a trance?

Some people are more receptive to a trance state and find themselves going very deeply ‘under’. I often watch clients ‘opening doors’, climbing steps or navigating the hallways of their mind. By contrast, some people are barely affected. It depends upon the person. Interestingly, the depth of trance has no effect upon the session’s success. People may experience a very deep trance, and resist suggestion, or have a very light trance and find the session extremely helpful. Read on for how and why.

Will it work for me?

What matters MOST is willingness & desire to change. There is always a reason for any behavior.

Ask yourself, how does the behaviour help you? What does it do for you? And be honest! Do you consciously or unconsciously see your behavior as protective or helpful in some way? Do you sincerely want to make the change, or just think you *should*?

Understand, no hypnotist can make you do anything you aren`t fully willing to do!

If you've ever seen a stage show, you'll have seen examples where a volunteer on stage suddenly sits up, comes out of the trance, starts looking around, and is escorted off to some place in the background. What happened was the hypnotist made a suggestion that went against that person's beliefs, their conscience, or their morals so their mind resisted, threw on the brakes and *POOF* the person woke up.

A behaviour or habit will continue until it ceases to be helpful, or until there is a good alternative. A smoker, for example, may believe they need cigarettes to relax and may have tried to quit a number of times, but can't seem to let it go for good. Why?

To illustrate:

Step 1: Smoker quits.

Does really well for a day, a week, a month or, sometimes, years.

Step 2: Something happens. Life is like that. It can be overwhelming sometimes, right?

Step 3: Smoker feels stressed and believes cigarettes will relieve that stress (even though MULTIPLE STUDIES have shown the opposite); i.e., that cigarette smoking increases stress. But, the person believes smoking will help, and they don't necessarily have a healthier alternative quick to hand.

Step 4: Smoker relapses back into the habit.

Nothing changes until it changes. If there is resistance, then there is a reason for it (hidden or otherwise). In this case, the obstacle is the belief that smoking can help the person cope with stress. The trick in breaking a habit is finding the underlying motivation for the behaviour, removing it and or refilling the 'hole' left behind with a better habit.

Once all blockages are removed and the conscious and subconscious minds are willing… hypnosis works.

Every time.

Just like you’ll yawn when someone else yawns or like the thought of fingernails scratching down a blackboard will make you shiver.

Your mind controls every part of you.

What do you mean my mind controls every part of me?

Your subconscious mind is the world’s greatest research assistant and is always eager to help you prove your thoughts are true.

If you choose to think ‘People don’t like me very much’, your mind will instantly start pulling files to help you reinforce that belief-- to provide 'proof'. You’ll remember scenarios where someone was unkind, thoughtless or where you felt disrespected.

On the flip side, if you change that thought to, ‘People like me very much’, the opposite happens and you remember situations and loved ones who actively sought you out, did thoughtful things, and wanted to spend time with you.

The key is harnessing your subconscious mind in an effective way so you are free to choose your best path and create your own reality. Hypnosis is a fabulous tool for taking back control!


  • Breaking unhealthy habits

  • Anxiety

  • Phobias

  • PTSD

  • Performance enhancement

  • Erectile Dysfunction

  • Focus

  • Success mindset

  • Confidence

  • Pain Management

  • Hyper-sensitivity

  • And pretty much everything else.


To help your self be as successful as possible, here are a few tips:

1. Be willing & open. If you come in reluctant or resistant, you’re wasting your money!

2. Avoid coffee or other caffeinated beverages before a session. Clinical hypnosis involves relaxation, and you want the calming process to be simple, easy and effective.

3. Where possible, come alone because it’s easier to control your after-session mind when you’re only concerned about your own thoughts—rather than trying to resist the thoughts or opinions of others.

4. If someone will be with you during your one hour reset (discussed below), prepare them beforehand. Even well-meaning questions from a loved one can plant seeds of doubt, implying that failure is a possibility and you do NOT want that when your mind is particularly open to suggestion.

What kind of questions do I mean?

· Is it gone?

o Suggests: It might not be gone

· Does it still ___?

o Suggests: I expect it is still ____.

· Do you feel different?

o Suggests: Maybe there’s no difference.

· Did it work?

o Suggests: Maybe it didn`t work.

All of these *concerned* questions can accidentally/unintentionally de-rail your recovery and bring you right back to square one. With one or two words, someone you trust can undo all of the work you and I do together!

Remember, good or bad, your subconscious mind—your super-efficient helper—is always ready to supply the proof you need to make something real!

5. Remember that, if you want, you can resist me and any hypnotic suggestion, and that doing so is a complete waste of your hard-earned money.

No hypnotist can make you do anything you don’t want to, but we CAN help you get out of your own way! Your mind can do absolutely phenomenal things for you, if you allow it.

6. Expect that sometimes conflicting beliefs or traumas may need to be released first, before full healing can take place.


Once your session is complete, your subconscious mind remains more receptive than usual for about an hour, so it’s important to protect your progress during that time. Guard your words and thoughts and very carefully.

  • Remain quiet and in a quiet environment.

  • No talking/socializing.

  • No radio.

  • No music (with lyrics).

  • No phone/computer/tablet/electronic interaction.

In a nutshell… for one hour after the session... be quiet within yourself.

If possible, go out for a walk in nature, sit on a park bench and watch the clouds in the sky, meditate, whatever—but allow time for the suggestions to firmly take hold and time for your mind to reset. Take some YOU time.

Once that time has passed, you’re good to go.

What happens when a baby cries?

We pick it up. We pay attention. We coddle. And…usually… we feed it.

What happens when a child falls down?

Is brave?

Needs comfort? …Maybe a sucker?

How about on birthdays or special occasions? …A bazillion calorie dinner PLUS yummy dessert!

Food is social. Food is fun. Food is soothing!!

Because eating is so often psychologically attached to comfort or love, the desire to put something in your mouth can be triggered when you’re feeling stressed, bored, lonely, helpless or depressed. Additionally, researchers are now suggesting that when you’re under stress, your willpower flies out the window and you’re less able to resist temptation. When feeling under siege, the need to feel better trumps everything else! So, unless we find a better way, we fall into a cycle of

discomfort = comfort food.

It’s fairly predictable, but *not* inevitable.

How do we fix it?

Replace the old cycle with new, tailored and effective comfort-supports to create healthier habits!

Step one of doing this can begin with taking the 5 Love Languages Quiz, available for free online. Taking the test will help you identify *your* best approach to self-love. It’s all well and good to suggest candles, spa days or bubble baths, but if those ideas don’t do anything for you… they’re not going to work. That’s where the quiz comes in because the results help you understand your own language of love, comfort and support. Once you see what you *really* crave, it’s easier to give it to yourself. And believe it or not, what you’re craving is NOT Doritos!

The quiz was originally designed by Dr. Gary Chapman as a couple’s aide, to demonstrate how one partner might demonstrate love by working hard to provide money and gifts, but the other partner might yearn for quality time alone. Each partner believes they’re doing all they can, but they become increasingly confused and frustrated with one another because they’re literally speaking different love languages. Interesting idea, no? Over time, the concept has been adapted for uses, like self-care models.


No one else knows quite how you want or need to be loved the way that you do! And expecting someone else to provide for all of your needs is not only unrealistic, but going that route is a sure fire road to disappointment! Knowing your love language, and then using individualized self-care models allows you to self-soothe in meaningful, helpful ways so you’re not reaching for a Twinkie after a hard day (which never works in the long run anyway and only leads to self-loathing and maybe a little nausea).

The result of actually giving yourself what you need?

Feeling good.

Feeling confident. More in control. And… liking yourself!

Add hypnosis, to align your focus with your goals, and magic things begin to happen.


5 Love Languages: Self Love Edition

If your Love Language is: Words of Affirmation,

Your thoughts create your security!

· Practice daily affirmations. Our thoughts precede our emotions and behaviors.

· Recite mantras that encourage self-compassion. Bring your attention to being good to yourself.

· Journal your strengths and everything about you for which you are grateful. Document everything you accomplish, feel good about, do right, like about yourself, etc.

· Keep your self-talk positive. Turn down the volume of your inner critic and choose to be your best coach or cheerleader.

· Write a love letter to yourself

· List out your positive qualities

· List your favorite physical qualities (challenge yourself)

· Write a gratitude list

· Read

· Listen to a positive podcast

· Avoid toxic people and people who make you feel bad about yourself, even relations.

· Write a goal list

· Keep a compliment list (or file folder), and look through it when you’re feeling down.

· Read some inspirational quotes

· Forgive someone (it’s not about them at all. It’s a weight released from *you*.)

If you Love Language is: Acts of Service,

Be kind to yourself!

· Prepare healthy meals for yourself. Put thought and effort into grocery shopping and meal preparation.

· Create an organized, clean and aesthetically pleasing home environment. Love where you live, even if on a budget.

· Detox from social media. Unfriend, unfollow, block, or mute any old friends or acquaintances that cause stress. You don’t need any unnecessary (exhausting) drama!

· Schedule regular physical, dental and mental health check-ups. Address any health concerns in a timely manner as they arise. Without your health, you have nothing.

· Take care of yourself with love and attention. Shower, dress, manicure, walk like the beautiful person that you are.

· Make a budget to reduce or alleviate financial stress.

· Delegate errands

· Book a therapy appointment, a hair appointment, a chiropractor appointment, a gym appointment… and GO!

· Garden or bake or craft or anything else that gives you pleasure or feels rewarding.

· Change your scenery or redecorate / rearrange furniture. YouTube has a bazillion videos on how to do different things or ideas for inspiration.

· Take care of yourself as well as you’d take care of a cherished loved one!

If your Love Language is: Receiving Gifts,

Bestow Self-Love on Yourself!

· Allow things in your home and closet that bring you joy. (Then, purge the rest.)

· Gift yourself with an experience from your bucket list.

o Sky dive

o Try white water rafting

o Hike The Great Trail


· Budget for it, plan it, enlist help where necessary… and GO!

· Invest in yourself!

o Get that degree!

o Take a cooking class!

o Learn how to be a yoga instructor! How to paint! How to do voice acting!

· There are so many courses available for free online, including some from Harvard!

· Do the research, apply for grants and scholarships, or volunteer to learn new skills.

· Invest in knowledge.

· Treat yourself to the wisdom and perspective gained from travel.

· Limited funds?

o Consider volunteering, a working holiday, or traveling on the cheap with groups of friends.

If your Love Language is: Quality Time,

Be Present with Yourself!

· Set aside time for meditation, deep breathing or self-hypnosis. Doing so will help you reconnect and center yourself when you begin feeling frazzled.

· Make time for you! What do you enjoy doing? Make a commitment to yourself and the thinks that give you joy. Set aside time for them and make sure they happen! Play is a gift, and you deserve it!

· Exercise. Dance. Swim. Ride. Watch the stars. Be one with yourself and your body!

· Under-schedule and under-commit. You’re not a gerbil on a wheel… and you won’t *win* if you do more.

· Allow yourself a mental health/rest day.

· Take a nap (with or without an alarm clock)

· Schedule a lunch date with a friend

· Pray

· Disengage from social media

· Commit random acts of kindness

· Sleep in

· Journal

· Netflix binge

· Give yourself permission to just *be* for a weekend. Rest. Play. Order in. Revitalize.

· Go to bed early

· Wake early

· Set boundaries

If your Love Language is: Physical Touch,

Feel comfort!

· Stretch your muscles and give yourself a foot massage with a wooden roller. Relax your body. Try a scalp massager, a percussion massager, or a good finger massager. It’s amazing how much tension you hold in your hands!

· Release toxins and relax your muscles by soaking in a warm bath with epsom salts. Not only is the magnesium good for your body, but it releases stress. To create a lovely ambience, add candles. And for an added bonus, make them beeswax candles, which are natural air purifiers.

· Moisturize. Create a skincare routine. Think: pampering!

· Give yourself a spa treatment: manicure, pedicure, facial, deep conditioning, etc. Accept that you are worthy of care.

· Get a professional massage.

· PJs all day!

· Cuddle with a pet

· Exercise.

· Cut out sugar or junk food.

· Enjoy candles or aromatherapy at dinnertime.

· Take a walk outside. Check out your local hiking trails.

· Dance.

· Soft textures (clothing, socks, blankets, stuffed animals— anything you can touch, stroke, or hold that gives you comfort.)

· Weighted blankets

“You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection.” ~Buddha

**Special credit to: Joyce Marter, Mary Lentz, & Isabelle Cruz for inspiration and ideas.

A Free Toolkit For Managing Anxiety

Between a global pandemic, political insecurity and a declining economy, anxiety is rampant these days and the

effects are manifesting in a variety of negative ways: increased neuroses, difficult (or poor) decision making, panic attacks, memory blocks, digestive problems, muscle tension, lack of

‘willpower’, and the list goes on.

Hypnosis can and absolutely does help lessen the duration, frequency and weight of anxiety. There is an inexpensive anxiety relieving download available on my website that really does help, but what happens if you hit a snag or encounter a trigger during the middle of your day?

Hypnosis may not be a practical option at the checkout counter of the supermarket.

The good news is that you don’t have to just ‘live with it’. There are some simple, FREE, and extremely effective tools you can use.


Luckily, before crippling anxiety or panic attacks completely take hold, a wind up, or warning cycle occurs. This is your opportunity to pull out the toolkit. At this point, you have anywhere from a few seconds to a few minutes (depending upon your individual pattern) to take action and avoid an actual meltdown.

Avoiding the attack will help you accomplish what you want in that moment, will help you feel more in control, and with repetition, will activate and reinforce a more helpful, constructive response.


Practical Tools for Managing Anxiety and Panic Attacks, Outside of Hypnosis:

These tools, when you actually use them, are very effective, but work best combined with the final reset breath described below.


Tool #1) Naming the feeling.

When you first begin feeling anxious, take a moment to identify the feeling. Is it fear? General anxiety? Insecurity? Define it, and then begin speaking it out loud.

“I am feeling anxious (or whatever). Anxiety. Anxious. Anxious. Anxiety. I am feeling_______.”


Tool # 2) 3-2-1

Take a moment to identify:

3- things you can see

2- things you can hear

1-thing you can physically feel (your clothing on your body, your shoes on your feet, etc.)


Tool #3) Square breathing

Square breathing is a technique where one draws a box/square on their leg (or other body part) while focusing their breath. Begin by drawing your first line upward while resting for a count of 3, then move your finger over and breathe in deeply for a second count of three, move your finger down while holding your breath for a third count of three, and finally, close the box while exhaling for a count of three.

Square breathing/controlling your breath is one of the best, fastest, and easiest ways to control emotion and one of the advantages of this technique is that it can be done, unobtrusively-- anytime and anywhere. No one ever need know what you’re doing!

AND finally

4) Reset Breath

This breath should always be done once as the final step, after the other tools, and acts as a final reset and release. By breathing in very deeply, holding until slightly uncomfortable (a count of 4), and then finally exhaling, you mimic your body’s pattern of breath during your deepest state of sleep and relaxation. A reset breath is an involuntary signal for your body to relax, release and let go.

How do these tools work?

Your brain is capable of processing information at an incredibly rapid pace, and can accomplish so many things

with the greatest of ease. That said, even your amazingly complex and dynamic mind cannot be in two places at once, and modern science attributes different areas of the brain to different functions. Naming the Feeling, 3-2-1, and Square Breathing techniques

all work by relocating your mind’s energy away from the limbic system, where you process emotions, to other parts of the brain. Away from the brain’s emotional centre, you are able to reset and avoid a full-fledged attack.

By naming the feeling and speaking it aloud, you are activating the part of your brain called the Broca’s Area. It is responsible for producing speech and is located on the left side of your head towards the front.

The 3-2-1 technique and Square Breathing both engage your physical senses, located in the parietal (temperature, taste, and a few others) and occipital (vision) lobes of your brain, again pulling brain energy away from the limbic system.

A Final Word:

You don't need to suffer. There is help... and it needn't be expensive!

The very BEST approach I've found involves a dual approach using the techniques described above, in conjunction with, hypnosis, like the anxiety relieving download mentioned above.

It works!